Have you ever been in a dark room or closet? Maybe you were playing Hide and Seek, hiding to pull a prank on someone, or just opened a door to a dark closet without a light. Whatever the reason, the dark can be a scary or unsettling place.
It’s not comfortable and it isn’t a place we tend to go willingly, at least for me it isn’t. Growing up, I wouldn’t go in our basement by myself until I was 10 or 11. It was unknown, which felt scary.
Over the last few weeks, God’s been teaching me how the dark is scary but it does not have to be if we shine a light on it. A flashlight in a dark closet can reveal treasures. A light into the dark places of our hearts can bring truth and healing. Light means being fully known.
In general others’ thoughts and emotions make sense to me, but I struggle with understanding my own thoughts and emotions. I like to box things up and stick them on the back shelf of the closet in my heart, thinking I will return to figure out the puzzle or deal with it when I have the time. Those boxes get dusty and cobwebby and that closet is dimly lit, making me not want to pull them out and work through them.
But over the past month, I’ve grown to understand that pulling out those emotions, thoughts, and feelings I’ve saved, shining a light on them and allowing them to be seen, is a good thing.
I’ve learned I don’t like to admit how I feel to myself, especially if it is uncomfortable or causes pain. I do everything I can to avoid those feelings, for myself and others. But I have also learned when I am honest with myself about them, they become something I’m able to work through them and let go. They are not scary anymore. They do not have to define me or make me a bad person. They are simply real and truth can begin to define them.
Now there are moments I find myself wanting to box those things back up. It can be tempting to take the easy way out and put it away again, and sometimes I do. In those moments I’m learning to give myself grace and compassion.
I’m learning to let the box sit out and open in the light for a time. I don’t have to touch it or dig any further, but in the light there is the ability for that emotion or thought to be fully known. I’m not pushing past my limit, but I’m allowing room for change and time to come back to it. It doesn’t have to happen in the immediate. And I’ve found that time to be a beautiful and healing thing.
It also doesn’t just stop with me. When I can be vulnerable and honest with myself first about those things, I’m able to be honest and vulnerable with God and others about them too. The light makes it less scary. The light makes me known.
In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was with God in the beginning. Through him all things were made; without him nothing was made that has been made. In him was life, and that life was the light of all mankind. The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it. – John 1:1-5, NIV
Darkness cannot overcome light, though it will try it’s very best. Sooner or later, though, the light always wins. God always wins. Knowing all our sins, thoughts, failures, and emotions, He came down into this world so we may have the light of life!
So take your flashlight and let the Light in this day!